Today, there is something I want to address.
I know everyone may not like to hear it, so I start by acknowledging that, but I think it is important to bring it up, especially if you are someone who wants to be free of your old conditioning and heal fully from what happened to you earlier in life.
I know that is what I have always wanted. I have also experienced that kind of healing time after time by doing the inner work needed.
I know it is fully possible, and I know how to do it, but I also know that there can be a lot of noise in the way.
What I want to address today is not the inner noise but the outer noise, and in this case, what I call “the healing culture”.
So, here it is.
Talking about the unhealed
There is so much information about the awakening, healing, and psychology out there these days.
And before I go into the issue I want to address (and the solution), I want to say this:
I think it’s wonderful that we have come to a point where we as a collective can talk about mental health and awakening symptoms and that there is a completely different level of acceptance about it now.
Now, we can talk relatively freely about trauma, triggers, and inner children, and I think that’s wonderful and that we have come a long way.
But I think there is one thing that is missing – both in the discussion and in people who are awakening:
People actually becoming free!
What do I mean by that?
I mean two things.
First: Now, we (as a collective) have gone from ignoring and suppressing our feelings and difficulties to talking openly about them, accepting them, and taking the conversation into the mainstream – which is wonderful in many ways.
It is an important step in the awakening and healing process to honestly acknowledge what we are going through (most importantly to ourselves, but if we feel safe, also with others).
But staying too long in that stage of the process or making a new identity out of our old unprocessed pain will not lead to freedom.
And now, we have a new paradigm – one full of unhealed people talking openly about their problems (which can help others do the same of course), but do they really become free by doing that?
And even more importantly, do some people even want to become free?
I doubt it in many cases. And I am honest here.
Many are comfortable making their wounds a new identity. They have found a new way of not dealing with the real problem underneath (the one problem that would free them). And now they do it in the name of spirituality and healing.
They are also greatly supported by the growing healing industry – which would, of course, not have any clients if people actually healed.
Don’t get me wrong here. There is nothing wrong with getting paid for helping people.
I am in that field as well, and I think helping people awaken and take back their energy should be the highest-paying job in the world, considering what positive difference it makes in people’s lives. Not to mention what it takes to go through a real shift in consciousness, live it, and share it with the world (emotionally, physically, spiritually, financially – not to mention the resistance we are up against from others – and society! – as we awaken).
But I am talking about the healing industry that has developed as a result of spirituality and awakening entering the mainstream. The one where people with little or no personal experience can take a weekend class and become certified practitioners.
That industry can keep people stuck in healing practices for years, losing sight of the goal, which (in my view) is being free and not needing the practices.
You can free yourself completely
But now to my most important point, the one that makes me jump out of bed full of energy ready to take on any challenge even on my worst days:
There is another level. There is a place where we don’t have to talk about our wounds, attachment styles, inner children, and the ways they are causing us to act.
A place where we are actually free. So free that it is as if those things never existed.
This is not a dream, a vision, or a fantasy of mine. It is the reality of what happens when we heal things at the core.
I have done this for myself, so I know it is possible.
I have gone to the deepest and scariest places inside myself and faced what I wasn’t able to deal with when it happened earlier in my life. And I have experienced and faced traumatic events internally by going back (I have both trauma and abuse in my background, so I didn’t come to where I am today whole, healed, and happy – I awakened, and then I did the work).
We can still remember what happened to us in the past when we have healed at the core, and we can still talk about it and share our journey to help others. But if or when we do, we do it from a healed place – a place of experience and wisdom.
Not from a place where we seek belonging in an unhealed paradigm, with relationships that require us not to heal (because if we do, what would we base our relationship on?).
From the wounded to the healed paradigm
I think it’s time to move forward both individually and collectively. To move from the wounded to the healed paradigm.
And I think that many people are ready. Ready to stop talking about healing and learning all the concepts and instead do the work so they can heal and live as the whole human beings they came here to be.
It takes facing and healing the real wound. It also takes letting go of the wounded or awakening personality – the identity that was created around the awakening or out of the old wounds and events.
But letting go of that personality even happens by itself when we heal the wound that caused it to be there in the first place.
There is no need to create any personality when you can be who you are – and when your body and inner world are safe to be in.
If we deal with the real cause, the cause that made us leave ourselves in the first place, we don’t have to leave ourselves anymore. We can be who we are. Fully.
It is a magical place to be. And a magical place to live. And it doesn’t have to look spiritual at all.
